Treasure Your Memory of a Loved One
When we lose someone we love, one of the most painful things we have to deal with is the knowledge that we’re not going to see them again. This is ultimately a ‘selfish’ perspective that focuses on your own feelings, but it’s also a very human response and a testament to your love for that person.
What’s worse than not seeing someone again is not remembering them at all. This is why it’s important to fight the urge to ‘avoid’ painful feelings and why it’s so important to find ways that you keep the memory of a loved one alive. Here are some ways you can do that.
Talk About Them
Some people will respond to grief by shutting down and pretending it’s not there. If the memory of a loved one is too painful, then it can be tempting to avoid it all together.
Instead, try to keep your loved one in mind by bringing them up in conversation. Don’t be afraid to point out how much your friend, partner, parent, or child would have loved what you’re doing, or how much you miss them. The more you talk about them, the easier it will become, and the more you’ll be able to enjoy their memory with others.
Keeping photos of your loved one around is also a nice way to keep them in mind. Keeping them in group photos is a nice way to prevent those photos from being morose.
And consider where you’re going to keep those photos. Sometimes, it’s easy to have a photo on a desk and never to look at it. One unique idea is to keep a photo of your loved one in a drawer that you will open regularly. That way, you’ll find yourself having to look at it occasionally.
Remember Them in Your Actions
When someone dies, their humor, their beliefs, their good nature, and their ideas can live on in you. Try to remember the best qualities of the person that you miss and to emulate those in your own actions. If a deceased friend was notable for their enthusiasm and positivity, then try to channel a bit of positivity in your own approach to things. When you do, you’ll be keeping their spirit alive and ensuring that they made a positive contribution to your life.